Defining Moments

Every relationship has a moment, or many moments, that may define the couple's future.

Critical moments, handled well, can bring you both together. 

Critical moments, handled poorly, can be the beginnings of the end.

These moments might be an affair, a lie, a family member's illness or death.  Changing jobs (voluntarily or not) endings and beginnings of all sorts.

When you two coome to one of these critical times, make an effort to talk about how you feel, what you experience, what you fear.  This open communication can be the factor for that decides what will happen next.

Can everything be resolved with conversation?

Perhaps the question should be, "Can anything be resolved without it?

Cynthia McKenna
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Comments

[Kailani]

I truly believe that anything can be resolved if we just communicate with each other.

Here via Carnival of Family Life.

[Robin (PENSIEVE)]

To answer your question, I'd have to say "NO!" Communication is crucial, and not just in monologue, in dialogue.

My husband and I have had cause through the years to play the "game" "Let me tell you what I just heard"; often, the hearers interpretation of what was said is nowhere NEAR what the speaker was meaning. This has helped us more often than not.

Here from the Family Life carnival; good suggestions here :)

[Cynthia McKenna, LPC, NCC]

Kailani - you wrote, "I truly believe that anything can be resolved if we just communicate with each other."

I really believe this too - it is always fascinating, to me, when I want to avoid talking about something - when I have to push myself to be part of the dialogue -
Cynthia

[Cynthia McKenna, LPC, NCC]

Robin - I love that you have have a game in which you and your spouse do a "check-in" on interpretation and meaning. That sounds so helpful. Thanks.
Cynthia

[Mary]

My husband and I have survived a lot in our 17 years of marriage. We have experienced everything almost from soup to nuts. I really believe that if you want to make any relationship work, you have to be honest with your feelings for one another. If you can't find a way to communicate, you might as well forget it. I also believe that being able to forgive yourself, and each other is key. Humor also helps. ;o)