Society isn't always the best teacher
Our society doesn't really support healthy boundaries. Here are a few examples:
~Saying "no" might hurt someone's feelings (so you need to take care of their needs rather than your own)
~TV and Film don't model healthy boundaries - maybe unhealthy boundaries make a good plot line
~People who have firm (not rigid) boundaries are often tagged as mean or witchy - particularly women.
~Sexuality is often portrayed as a manipulative tool to get what you want as opposed to a loving expression between two adults
~I can't think of a show or movie that really lauds good boundaries - maybe the Walton's...
If you have seen something in the mainstream media that encourages a good sense of self, and good boundaries, I would love to hear about it. Please post in the comments section below.
Cynthia
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