Having an argument?

We all have arguments with loved ones, and finding a way through the conflict can sometimes be challenging.

When it seems like talking isn't working, resist the temptation to solve your issues using text messages.  

I love texting, and use it a lot.  However, the written word does not give your partner an opportunity to see your face, hear your voice, look into your eyes.  

Text messages are usually quick notes to say, "what do you want for dinner?  or, "Your mom called."   They aren't so great for things like, "You never listen to me," or "I can't believe you did that."

It can be tempting to text when you are angry, kind of a chance to get in the last word without having to actually talk to each other.  Texting in anger can be damaging to your communication and even your relationship.  

If you feel hurt, talk about it.  If you are angry, talk about it.  Just say, "no to texting when you are out of sorts.

Cynthia

Comments

[rogergil]

texting has certainly become a major force in my own life. It's tempting to rely on it as a major form of communication. I think as professionals we need to emphasized that text never conveys the emotion that we may want to express so we need to tell our clients not to rely on it.

[Therapy]

That was brilliant!!! I gave someone recently advice on reacting while simmering in an argument. This is one method most people resort to other than leaving voice mail!!