A lot of people are uncomfortable talking about death and dying. Our western culture doesn't seem comfortable with anything except happy, healthy people - so the topic of our last days and planning for our care is often taboo.
It is a good idea to talk with your loved ones about end of life issues: medical power of attorney, advance directives, etc. Its also good to talk about any specific desires you have for a funeral or burial.
Talking things over takes stress and strain off the family when illness and/or death comes.
And you really should have a will. There are forms available online or any good attorney can help you draw up a will.
You don't have to be powerless when you become sick. You can take charge of what happens by talking things over with your family, and getting the proper legal forms in place. Its really a loving act to not leave your family wondering.
Cynthia
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This is true, Cynthia. We are so busy being "happy" and thinking positive thoughts that we don't want to consider the possibility that we might die, so we do not plan (and we refuse to acknowledge the inevitability of death).
It's a hard conversation to have with loved ones even if we are willing. People want to postpone the planning of a will or a discuss buying a pre-paid funeral plan. I have both, but it took my late husband's illness and eventual death to get these things in order, so I know I'm like most people when it comes to avoiding this subject.
Thank you for bringing up this topic in such a caring way and reminding us of its importance, Cynthia.
Posted by: Michelle E. Vásquez, MS, LPC | 09 July 2009 at 08:36 PM